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U.S. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - will provide immediate assistance to individuals in suicidal crisis by connecting them to the nearest available suicide prevention and mental health service provider through a toll-free telephone number: 1-800-273-TALK (8255). It is the only national suicide prevention and intervention telephone resource funded by the Federal Government.
This is a toll free number for most (all?) countries in the world. If you are suicidal right now, please phone them immediately!
Christian Gays is often approached to counsel people with problems related to Christianity and homosexuality. Some people need in-depth counselling. Some just need a one-on-one person to connect with. Fortunately we have been blessed with some wonderful people who have volunteered to be there for you in your time of need.
Some of our volunteers have more formal training than others, but all have felt led to make themselves available to support you in any way they can.
ChristianGays.com takes no responsibility for advice given. This is merely a service of volunteers which we are making available to you.
Click on the link for the name of the person you wish to contact and it will bring up a letter addressed to them. You may write to one or several.
Our Volunteer Counsellors
My name is Samuel. I've been in the US for the past 15 years. I was raised in a Pentecostal church in Caracas and I always thank God for giving me the opportunity to learn about Him at such young age. The notion of His existence and mercy has given me the courage to overcome the many challenges of my life.
My parents were divorced, and I knew that I was "different". Although I was heavily involved in the religious and social activities of my church I always felt isolated and shameful for being who I was. It was only with the help of the Holy Spirit that I came to the understanding that the Lord loves me and that His love is unconditional.
I have an undergraduate degree in Education and Psychology, and have a private practice as a Professional Life Coach where I assist many with challenges regarding self esteem, lack of motivation, divorce, separation, communication skills, conflict resolution, family dynamics, etc.
Allen was married for 15 years and has two great sons, ages 19 and 16.
I struggled with my decision to come out, but my hand was forced somewhat with the loss of a job in early 2001 due to my sexuality. I now live a much happier, more fulfilled life. I work hard to stay as involved as time allows in Church. I have served as a Youth Leader in the LifeTeen Program as well as a Eucheristic Minister.
I have a Bachelors degree in Psychology as well as a Specialist degree (above a masters and below a doctorate) in School Psychology. I worked for 9 years as a School Psychologist in the local school system.
Since 1990 I have facilitated groups for the Alcohol & Drug Abuse Council, Houma City Court, The Haven (A shelter for Domestic Violence Victims), Houma Family Violence Council, The Batterer's Intervention Program for Lafourche Parish and for Annunziata Tutoral Center.
I have been a Principal/School Administrator for an Alternative School for Expelled Students, a Program Director for a Mental Health Rehabilitation Program, a Therapist on an Adolescent Psychiatric Unit, a Manager of a Psychiatric Unit and the Admissions Coordinator of and Emergency Department.
In November of 2005 I earned my MBA in Health Care Mangement and I am now a Manager of Patient Accounts for a large Multi-specialty Physician Practice in Hattiesburg, Mississippi.
It was indeed a long journey to self acceptance and being able to mergy my life to include being a gay Christian. I would be more than happy to work with you in your search for acceptance of self and dealing with your religous beliefs. Please feel free to contact me.
Mary Lou Wallner is a "straight" Christ-follower, and totally GLBT supportive. Her lesbian Christian daughter committed suicide over 12 years ago.
She states, "After being totally NON-accepting of my daughter, because at that time I was a fundamentalist, I went on a journey after her death, of reading everything I could get my hands on about homosexuality, praying and talking with people on both sides of the issue. The result has been a 180 degree transformation of our beliefs.
We now go to a wonderful church in North Little Rock, AR, and my husband and I are just 2 out of 4 people who are heterosexual. Everyone else is gay.
I've counseled many GLBT folks over the past 8 years. I also do a lot of speaking all over the country. "
See my website, TEACH Ministries which we started in 2002. The revised and updated version of my book, The Slow Miracle of Transformation, can be ordered there.
TEACH is an acronym for To Educate About the Consequences of Homophobia.
Jan has had 65 yrs of education in the school of "life".
I suffer from bipolar illness so I understand depression from a very personal perspective. I grew up in what is known as a "holiness" denomination - basically that means I can be perfect if I truly love the Lord. One of the many things I have learned is that no one can be perfect, with or without the help of God. That is why Christ came to earth to suffer and die for my imperfections (sins).
I don't have any formal training in counselling, but have journeyed through "the valley of the shadow of death" and God was truly with me. I was married for 23 yrs and have children and grandchildren.
I can offer a loving and caring ear to your struggles and pain, and share my experience of coming out, and just living life.
Note from Mary: Jan is my ex-wife, and I have such great confidence in Jan's counselling and ministering abilities, that I personally asked her if she would undertake this volunteer position. We are all blessed that she has agreed. Just one thing to mention though is that Jan often doesn't answer her mail quickly due to her work schedule. It may take her a while to get back to you, but don't let this deter you from contacting her. She is worth the wait. ;-)
Russ is a 41 year old gay Christian Minister in Louisville, KY. He is not a pulpit minister, but prefers to reach out to those in his community one on one to spread God's Word. He is currently a Firefighter/EMT in Louisville, having heard God's calling that there was still more he could do.
He received his B.A. in Psychology from Miami University of Ohio and holds church-issued diplomas in Philosophy of Religion, Religious Studies, Theology, and Crisis Chaplaincy. He also holds the title of Knight Third Class of the Order of Knights of St. Luke's Evangelical Christian Ministries for his in-depth studies.
Russ has worked in the medical field as an EMT, in the health and fitness field as a Massage Therapist and Personal Trainer, and as a para-professional counselor for a Crisis Intervention Center.
In 2003 he was called into service as an ordained Minister and now holds ordainment through three separate religious organizations. He has intervention and counseling experience with drug and alcohol abuse and addictions with friends, partners, and family. And he has experience in counseling HIV from detailed research he has conducted since being diagnosed himself.
Often as a young adult going through the trials and tribulations of being gay Russ found himself asking God, "Where were you when I needed you?" And one day when he (Russ) finally chose to listen, God responded with, "My child, you're still alive aren't you?"
It was shortly after that epiphany Russ began to hear the call that God was whispering to him. God had chosen this life for him so that he could understand and reach out with his heart wherever God placed him, and help others who are pulled away from God's perfect love by those who would condemn in the name of Christ. We were put here to help one another and to glorify God however we can. God is Love. We are of Him. And we are loved.
Julian is a 34 yo female-to-male (FTM) transgendered individual. He has a diploma in Environmental Technology, and is currently working toward an undergraduate degree in Women's Studies and Global Development Studies. He has lived a unique life, choosing most often the 'road less traveled'. As such, he has traveled extensively, and has loved the learning that has come with interacting with lots of different people. As female, he identified as bisexual and lesbian. Now, he identifies as pansexual.
He was raised Catholic, and has studied world religions - mainly Shamanism and Buddhism. He strongly believes in the Light; the Divinity in all of us; inherent in all things - this is what enabled him to survive a very difficult upbringing. Spirit is central to his core functioning.
A main thrust of his life has been on healing his wounds. As such, he has read psychology, seen many types of therapists, participated in support circles, worked toward preventing his own suicide, and delved deeply into the healing arts. He has his Third Degree Reiki certification, and is also certified in Sound & Colour Therapy and Essential Touch Aromatherapy. He loves the outdoors - nature is a significant part of his life and happiness. He aims toward greater self-subsistence: to live in greater harmony with Mother Earth.
He is happy to offer his ears and his heart.
Dak has been in three major occupational fields during the last 47 years of his life...the hospitality industry, the teaching profession, and the call to ordained ministry. Each area had its share of counseling with customers, employees, young people, and congregants of all ages.
He comes with a B.A. in Religion, a triple major in Instrumental, Choral, and Keyboard music, plus a major in History.
He taught for 20 years in the public school systems and 40 years in private practice.
He attained a Masters of Divinity degree from Central Baptist Theological Seminary in 2002, and has a 30 year span of "listening skills," including working with suicidal young people during the teaching years and in the hospitality industry.
Dak is a jack of all listening trades, probably a master of none, but...he loves people and wants only the best for them. A plethora of counseling courses has held him in good stead. Should you feel led to contact him, please feel free to do so. May God Bless!!!
Rev Dr Jerry Maneker was born in 1940 in New York City. He is straight, married, and has 2 grown daughters, and is a retired professor of sociology at California State University, Chico, but still teaches two courses a semester.
Jerry believes that gay people are one of God's gifts to the Church and to secular society as well, and there is nothing in the Bible that condemns same-sex love!
"The false gospel of legalism and perfectionism seems to have overtaken much of the "Church" and its discriminatory attitude, and behavior toward LGBT people is a major example of that false gospel."
As a University Professor for the last 36 years, and as moderator of "Husbands Out to their Wives", DJ has counselled many about relationship problems and marriage breakups.
He is not trained except by practice, and thus can only offer experiences of others, including his own, of coming out late in life with three grown children (two in right-wing religious positions). DJ would be willing to be an ear and an advisor.
Our Professional Counsellors
These are professional therapists who charge for their services.
Matthew Smith - Psy.D, Licensed Clinical Psychologist with a professional psychotherapy practice in the San Francisco Bay area of California. I provide assessment and counseling to the GLBT community who are seeking guidance with personal growth or relief from emotional distress. I have a particular interest in helping gay Christians integrate their sexuality and spirituality in a non-judgmental way and provide them with an experience where they feel respected for their values and beliefs.
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